“Your 20’s are your ‘selfish’ years. It’s a decade to immerse yourself in every single thing possible. Be selfish with your time, and all the aspects of you. Tinker with sh*t, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little, and never touch the ground.”
― Kyoko Escamilla
Okay Tiarra it is time to make a decision. What will my family think? Pray on it. What will my coach think? Make a pro con list. Will I still keep my friends? You cannot let them down. Am I burning bridges with people who gave me amazing opportunities? Ask your mentor for advice. Who are you letting down? Your mother did not raise you to be a quitter. Finish out your commitment.
My entire thought process was revolved about what was best for everyone else, but I was forgetting one very important person…myself. What was going to make Tiarra happy?
Sometimes it takes saying goodbye, to a sport that helped mold you into the person you are today to realize the value in being selfish during your 20s. A sport that has taught you how to persevere through tough times. A sport that has taught you the importance of integrity. A sport that has given you life long friendships.
I hope that this post will provide a golden nugget for everyone! To the millennials who are often labeled as entitled. For the selfless person who constantly puts others before yourself. And to the selfish person who is just trying to do what is best for you; keep reading!
Why It Is Alright to be Selfish During Your 20s:
You Have the Rest of Your Life to Live For Others
Right now, we are young. This is the time to do solely what is best for you. Your 40-year-old self driving a mini van (I refuse to ever whip a van, but I digress) filled with kids will thank you. You do not have to compromise for anyone or anything right now. Do you, boo!
Be Selfless and Selfish
Find the perfect balance. Put yourself first while still being kind to others.
Your True Friends/Family Will Always Support You
These are not the years to worry about what everyone else thinks. Contrary to popular belief, you are fully capable of making the best decision for you. Respect your friends opinions but do not let them make your decisions. At the end of the day your true friends will support you when you make the right decisions for your happiness. To the people who do not support your decisions, kill ’em with kindness!
You Cannot Pour From an Empty Cup
If your cup is empty, you cannot pour from it. Take care of yourself first so you are able to then take care of others.
Trust the Process
Everything is changing right now, trust it. There is something so scary yet so amazing about limitless possibilities. Whatever is meant to be will always be.
To cheer my first true love, this is not goodbye just see you later.